Some, Most, and All
Whenever I think of the “one,” the first thing on my mind isn’t Keanu Reeves, despite his handsome face. I think of a one, true love. Why is that? Why does the notion of just one perfect person represent true love? Does this mean you’ll only ever love one person fully and truly? No!
This isn’t in support of open relationships or infidelity, by the by. Commitment is commitment. Adults make promises they intend to keep. I’m a huge believer in serial monogamy as I’ve found that far more fulfilling than casual dating. Plus, making new friends means lasting connections which is preferable to passing strangers.
I propose that being the “one” is more than a merely romantic endeavor. It’s not exclusive to any singular person, except said individual being “one” for another. Take for example, parents. Most of us are gifted with two of them our entire lives. Some of us aren’t though.
Some of us may lose our mothers as we enter this world. Some of us only had fathers for the ten seconds of our coming into being. Some of us lose our parents later in life: to addiction; to selfishness or resentment; to conflicting life choices; to religious beliefs; to to new loved ones and so on.
Most of of us are never blessed enough have more than two earthly parents for very long. Upon marriage, maybe you’re fortunate enough to connect with one or both of your parents-in-law. Sadly, this doesn’t occur as often was we’d like. Even if you’re not blessed with a second set or second chance at earthly parents, you still have two in heaven.
Mary, Our Mother, birthed the Savior of us all, making her the mother of us all, too. She chose to be the “one” when God called, just as Christ’s disciples did. When Jesus called upon each one of them to be the “one” for Him, they did. Peter was the one who denied Him and then served as the cornerstone of the Church. Judas is the one who betrayed Him. Thomas is the one who doubted Him and dared to seek proof. Christ is the one who died for us all.
Answering the Call
In a thousand moments of any given day, we’re all called to be the “one” for another. God is always calling us to be the one for Him, but most of us are too busy being the one for ourselves. We may never become the one because we don’t believe in our worthiness or ability to be. The call to be the one never fades though.
Answering the call to be the one for Christ means an infinite number of things. First and foremost, you might only be the one in a certain set of temporary circumstances. Conversely, you may be the one for the rest of your life. Being the one always comes from a place of love, because you’re answering a call to serve life in your heart. I get why our “ones” are so often limited to true love and and soulmates. I just think we get confused about who we all really love. (Hint, it’s God, even if you’re in denial.)
Did anyone ever stop and think that being the one is voluntary and requires choice to be? What if you’re made for a certain task or person, yet never answer the call to be the one? I don’t think that means we all have to suffer another’s doubt or ignorance. I do believe that the soul in refusal of the call suffers for it. It’s not a punishment per se, but more of a naturally resulting negative consequence.
To all of you hopeless romantics, fear not. Even if your “one” doesn’t prepare to be yours, you’ll always have Christ. I don’t mean that to placate, but rather to remind you of your call to be the one for Him. In my experience, when you’re being as called, all those fears about the “one” fade.
If anything, you’re most likely to be the one for another by being one with, in, and for Christ. I firmly and earnestly believe that being for Christ in the myriad of ways He calls us prepares you to be the one when others can’t.
Whether it means being the one after your best friend’s break-up; or celebrating a loved one’s life; or picking up extra shifts at work; or volunteering in your free time; or giving someone the coat off your back; or talking to the quiet weirdo at school or work; that’s being the one. All of these are but a fraction of the ways to be the one for another. When you feel that tug in your chest, pulling out your humanity, be the one to say, “Yes.”